If you’re planning to start a business with a friend, you’re in good company. About half of all startups are organized among friends, spouses or siblings.
So why have I witnessed so many friendships fold before the business itself? I think British author William Blake got it right when he said, “It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.”
Underlying every solid friendship are expectations of a higher level of loyalty and understanding than found in work relationships. Friends count on their business partners to be supportive when family obligations interfere with business deadlines. Friends also expect their business partners to defend their actions to co-workers, customers, investors, and vendors, even if all reason says otherwise. When our friends or spouses let us down, resentments simmer in profound and potentially debilitating ways.
Here are four recommendations to help friends transition to successful business partners:
- Agree on time and financial commitments. The typical startup business will take a lot more time and money to become profitable than anyone ever expects. This isn’t necessarily a sign of poor planning, but a reflection of the routine adjustments that are made as entrepreneurs learn more about their customers and competition.
Nagging problems, however, arise when one partner can commit more time or rescue cash than the other partner. It is these commitment imbalances, especially in 50-50 partnerships, that tend to create the most emotionally draining dissention.
Prior to securing a domain name or printing business cards, partners should gain an understanding of the limits of each partner’s contribution to startup success. Pressuring partners to commit more money than they are able will create undue stress on the friendship and the business.
Also, discuss how long each partner can go without a salary before having to look for outside employment. If one partner can commit more time and money than the other, simply agree to add to the lead partner’s ownership stake and decision-making authority. Lastly, develop a structure when each partner can really leave the office without interruption or guilt.
- Discuss “what-if” scenarios. The best functioning partnerships always start out fully aligned about their strategies and spending priorities. It helps companies move forward in a productive way. Without agreement, the business is doomed to disagreements on big issues and small issues. Partners are best served when they talk through a number of different nasty “what-if” scenarios. Try this question as a good discussion icebreaker: “What if we run out of money?”
- Decide who is ultimately in charge. It’s easy for two pals to compromise on friendly disagreements when not too much is at stake. But in an operating business, partners have their time, hard cash, and professional egos on the line. It’s completely unrealistic to assume your easygoing buddy will always be agreeable and supportive. What areas present the greatest risk for disagreement? Simply stated, it is debt and decision-making authority. Can a partner take on debt on behalf of the company?
Can a partner agree to a customer discount without consulting the other partner? And last but not least, who decides an issue when partners can’t agree? My recommendation to entrepreneurs is to (a) develop a board of directors with at least one independent member or (b) find an experienced businessperson to help the partners work through the tricky issues of job descriptions, budget priorities, and the need for decision-making collaboration.
- Draft forward-serving agreements. Today you want to work in a startup; tomorrow you may not. The reasons for a sudden career plan change are more likely to be influenced by family issues such as an illness, a new baby, a divorce, a spouse’s layoff, or sudden family relocation, than concerns about startup viability. When one partner wants to sell out, quit, or reduce involvement, what happens? If one partner wants to invest more money in the business, what happens?
The best time to negotiate these complex issues is before any money goes into the business checking account. Hire a lawyer to help you craft two must-have documents: a partnership agreement and a stock purchase and sale agreement. Don’t start up without them!